Untold Rules of Friendship

Y’all know I have rules and I take my friendships very serious. Don’t get me wrong it took me a minute to get there. At one point I was a horrible friend, but it took a lot of self care for me to be the friend I am today!

So let’s get to it……

My relationships with my friends are sacred we make time for each other, and that’s how it should be. I have friends from all walks of life and each one is very special to me in different ways. I want to talk about the most important traits and characteristics of a good friendship. Consistency is key. Being a good friend means being there when it works for the both of us, not only when you need a shoulder to lean on or a listening ear. We have to have accountability and transparency. Look, we all know life hits us and we may have very demanding jobs or have a family, but “girl time” is healthy and very much needed. I find that I struggle with accountability for sure and it’s something I will continue to work on. Self awareness is very important. Sis if we schedule a lunch and you’re gonna be late tell me so I can order for you. If we have plans to do anything and your kid gets sick, make sure you let your friends know. Being consistent goes a long way.

Gossip?? Yes Gossip, At some point in every friendship there will be chatter especially when you have mutual friends. We have all been there, there’s no denying it. It’s takes maturity and forgiveness to move past it. Often times we let past disappointments ruin our future. You’re too great to let what someone did to you keep you from moving forward. And believe me when I say, we all screw up and get hurt. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you’re excusing the behavior, to me, it means growth! Resolve tension so that you can heal yourself. It may feel like your curiosity being disconnected from your practical knowledge and skill. Give yourself leeway to meet with disaster. You learn more from failure than from success.